Try this list on for size: someone being alive, or someone being well, losing weight, gaining muscle, finding a great home, finding a great job, meeting the ideal partner, bonding with a best friend, having lots of money, having lots of love, getting rid of someone, getting rid of something, being free everyday to do what you want, absolutely no violence in the world, the perfect family, being a mom or dad, growing your own food in abundance, buying the ultimate summer home, losing all bad habits, being super prolific & productive, radiating flawless health, looking absolutely gorgeous, having no debt at all, blessed with amazing talent, owning acres of land, feeling totally secure & safe, ...the list goes on & on, & you can put any words you like into this long list of "I can't wait for this to happen" or "If I had this, then everything would be much much better." Ask yourself, would it be? Have you not said this before about other things? Other things that happened for you, changed you for a little while, then the 'missing' came back? Also, look at all the people that might already have what you are missing, are they happy or content?
I think we need to go deeper. I think our lives serve as our mirrors: we see a 'missing' or something that is eating away at us; a person or situation is causing us stress or disharmony that we can't wait to change; we think life would be suddenly better if our idea or desire finally happened; etc.. What is beyond all of these things that must happen in order for us to be happy, content, at peace, or feel secure?
transitory? The ocean is deep, very deep. So are we. If we want stillness, if we want peace, we must learn to dive deep -- to anchor in the deepest part of ourselves.
Below are the quotes I promised. Let them sink in, then take responsibility for them. Be fearless. Relax into your deepest self -- your unlimited, unconditional, universal self.
"You are who you allow yourself to become. The self is what it allows itself to be. [...] The fundamental issue is getting past fears, getting past limiting beliefs, getting beyond habits, and getting to a blossoming of oneself -- an allowing." - R. Waggoner
"Whatever your passion is, it is also your path. And you have to go deeper. It's not enough just to save the world, you have to also look at what is creating the disharmony in the world within yourself. That is what a death-rebirth experience is. The death is basically the death of what the ego or the mind believes to be important. The rebirth is, being born again into the wider perspective of reality; what it is to be a human being, but not focused on yourself. Focused as part of nature, as part of the wholeness that is nature. [...] The longest journey we have to make is from our head to our heart." - T. Samara
Aimee Cavenecia (also known as AimeeLovesYou) is an author & activist who is currently igniting a Bliss & Self-Mastery revolution through her weekly blog Sunday Is For Lovers. Aimee's life-work is to share her insights on Seeing, Loving & Being (SLB), as well teaching meditation to people globally via the internet.